“Often does hatred hurt itself.”

J.R.R. Tolkien, The Two Towers

Hatred, or any other negative emotion, tends to feel good in the moment. We are hurt, or angry, or distraught, and we need somewhere to direct our anguish. Somewhere other than ourselves.

But that which we do for quick relief is rarely a true remedy. Indeed, it is likely to do the opposite: make a disease out of what was only a temporary discomfort. Hatred, anger, or even simple dislike are things we must cling to like drunks to the bottle or, given the upcoming holiday, shopaholics to their credit cards. Letting them go would force us to face ourselves, and it’s so much easier to shift the blame elsewhere.

But hiding behind negativity is like grasping at the jagged rocks of a cliff–it may delay your fall, but it still hurts you. So look past your spite, your ire, your discontent, and instead choose acceptance and peace and love. Especially this time of year. Embrace the positive and count your blessings, not your frustrations.

Note to readers: Each week, I share a fantasy quote and indulge my inner philosopher with a brief essay based on said quote. Share your favorite quote with me and I might feature it in a future newsletter! Email: dtkane@dtkane.com.